- Terry BallantyneTangledNovember 30, 2016I have managed my mother’s care for 18 months. I say managed because I no longer give her a shower, or make daily meals. I am the umbrella under which the caregivers do the daily work. I manage their moods and needs and keep them propped up. They are present and have feelings and voices. I can please them, assist them, relate to them. And they, with some super human skill I do not possess, take care of my failing mom and her dementia impaired...